I wish my dad, who wrote a wonderful, quirky guide to the city called Washington Itself, were still around for this. He'd be so pleased.
People are happiest at the beginnings and the ends of their lives. The vast majority of Americans over 65 live independently. The older people get, the less afraid they are of dying. Aging is a natural, lifelong, powerful process. So how come so many of us unthinkingly assume that depression, diapers, and dementia lie ahead? That the 20th century’s astonishing leap in life expectancy is a disaster-in-the making? Underlying all the hand-wringing is ageism: discrimination that sidelines and silences older people. So I’ve written a book. I blog about it. I have a Q & A blog called Yo, Is This Ageist? (Go ahead, ask me.) I’ve written a consciousness-raising booklet. And I speak widely. All tools to help catalyze a movement to make discrimination on the basis of age as unacceptable as any other kind.
From childhood on, we’re barraged by messages that it’s sad to be old. That wrinkles are embarrassing, and old people useless. Author and activist Ashton Applewhite believed them too—until she realized where this prejudice comes from and the damage it does. Lively, funny, and deeply researched, This Chair Rocks traces Applewhite’s journey from apprehensive boomer to pro-aging radical, and in the process debunks myth after myth about late life. The book explains the roots of ageism—in history and in our own age denial—and how it divides and debases, examines how ageist myths and stereotypes cripple the way our brains and bodies function, looks at ageism in the workplace and the bedroom, exposes the cost of the all-American myth of independence, critiques the portrayal of olders as burdens to society, describes what an all-age-friendly world would look like, and concludes with a rousing call to action. Whether you’re older or hoping to get there, this book will shake you by the shoulders, cheer you up, make you mad, and change the way you see the rest of your life. Age pride!
Wow. This book totally rocks. It arrived on a day when I was in deep confusion and sadness about my age—62. Everything about it, from my invisibility to my neck. Within four or five wise, passionate pages, I had found insight, illumination and inspiration. I never use the word empower, but this book has empowered me.
ANNE LAMOTT, New York Times best-selling author
Along comes Ashton Applewhite with a book we have been waiting for. Anti-ageism now boasts a popular champion, activist, and epigrammatist in the lineage of Martial and Dorothy Parker. Until This Chair Rocks we haven’t had a single compact book that blows up myths seven to a page like fireworks.
LOS ANGELES REVIEW OF BOOKS
Vibrant, energetic, fact-filled and funny, This Chair Rocks is a call to arms not just for older people but for our whole society.
KATHA POLLITT, poet, essayist, and Nation columnist
Sometimes a writer does us all a great favor and switches on a light. Snap! The darkness vanishes and, in its place we find an electric vision of new ways of living. I want to live in a world where ageism is just a memory, and This Chair Rocks illuminates the path.
DR. BILL THOMAS, founder of Changing Aging
This Chair Rocks is radical, exuberant, and full of all sorts of facts that erase many of the myths and beliefs about late life. As Applewhite defines and describes ageism, new ways of seeing and being in the world emerge, empowering everyone to see things as they really are.
LAURIE ANDERSON, artist
A knowledgeable, straight-talking, and witty book that briskly explains to anyone how-wrong-we-are-about-aging. There’s radical news here to enlighten the most “done” starlet, and tart turns of phrase to captivate the most expert age critic: ‘All aging is “successful”—not just the sporty version—otherwise you’re dead.’ This pithy primer ought ideally to be given to every American adolescent—to inoculate them against the lies and stereotypes that can spoil the long life course they will all want.
Margaret Morganroth Gullette, author of Aged by Culture and the prize-winning Agewise and Declining to Decline
Ashton Applewhite is a visionary whose time has come, tackling one of the most persistent biases of our day with originality, verve, and humor. Her magic formula of naming and shaming may just shake all of us out of complacency and it into action. Whether you relate through being older now or recognize that aging is in your future, this is one of the most important books you’ll ever read.
Marc Freedman, CEO of Encore.org and author of The Big Shift: Navigating the New Life Stage Before Midlife
A smart and stirring call to add ageism to the list of ‘isms’ that divide us, and to mobilize against it. Applewhite shows how ageism distorts our view of old age, and urges us to challenge age- based prejudices in ourselves and in society. An important wake-up call for any baby boomer who’s apprehensive about growing old.
Pepper Schwartz, Professor of Sociology, University of Washington and AARP’s Official Love & Relationship Ambassador
Smart, sassy and oh so wise.
Finally, a take-down of the last acceptable prejudice. Applewhite eloquently and expertly exposes the structural discrimination that makes growing older so much harder than it should be—not just for the white, affluent, healthy, and able-bodied, but for women, people of color, people with disabilities, and poor people. Full of treasures, This Chair Rocks should be required reading for everyone in aging services, to help us confront ageism in our personal and professional lives and join forces against it. As Applewhite writes, ‘It’s time for Age Pride.’
Donna Corrado, Commissioner, NYC Department for the Aging
An eloquent and well-researched exposé of the prejudice that feeds age bias, and a passionate argument to mobilize against it. This must-read book is also a fun-read for every age.
Stephanie Coontz, author, The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap
To live agefully – what a wonderful word! With warmth, wit and clarity, Ashton Applewhite explains what it means, while never falling into age-denial or age-shame. This is a book packed with provocative and liberating ideas, to make you leap into the air with pleasure – even if your knees, like mine, are a little dodgy.
Anne Karpf, author of How to Age
I wish my dad, who wrote a wonderful, quirky guide to the city called Washington Itself, were still around for this. He'd be so pleased.
This Guest Post is by Ms. Janet Ferguson (Ph.d), Executive Director of the Seniors’ Learning Centre (SLC) at Bermuda College, Bermuda. For over 25 years the SLC has served Bermuda's fifty-five plus population, and there are currently over six hundred active members. This post first appeared on the SLC blog, and reflects Dr. Ferguson’s personal opinion, not the position of the SLC.
Over a year ago, in the care of two Cuban surgeons, my ninety-seven-year-old mother underwent a complicated surgical procedure.
Setting aside the agonizing personal moral dilemma that signing-off on this undertaking provoked for an only child, this experience has made me stop and reassess much of my taken for granted assumptions about living, dying, and the care of bodies and spirits that will inevitably age. Thankfully, knowing that the decisions reflected my mother's disposition and firmly held values made things easier. Yet, please indulge me as I share some of my thoughts.
The militant anti-discriminatory position adopted by the Cuban surgeons profoundly affected my thinking. They explained that while age is influential in medical decision-making, it is not the primary consideration. That certainly challenges the frequently offered: "Well, considering her age...." Rather, the doctors explained, it is the person’s physiological state that determines whether or not to move forward with a particular medical intervention.
This perspective upends our common assumptions about what bodies should or should not be able to do according to unexamined beliefs about chronological age. It challenges our established perceptions of the old, ageing, the provision of care, decline, and dignified exits. It is an invitation to explore.
For example, I question the sub-text of the growing popularity of "living wills" and the often implicit apologetic "I don't want to be too much trouble" position. What might modernity’s preoccupation with agility and newness be bundling the ageing into? If we are progressive, successful societies, then we must be judged by our ability—or lack thereof—to extend equal consideration to all, irrespective of race, class, gender or age.
What is the purpose of surplus if not to ensure that this goal of equal consideration is consistently achieved? Is it really an exercise of autonomy and independence when physiological differences brought about by the inevitable passage of time convince us that we have a moral right obligation to plan swift and uncomplicated exits in the name of choice? After a lifetime of declaring "the sanctity of life," why should self-erasure become the exercise of personal "choice" because we can no longer ‘strut our stuff’?
If we fear marginalization, isolation or redundancy, then ageing, a rather non-selective process, is not the culprit. Rather, the true source of the problem is popular perceptions of ageing, fuelled by a widespread and exponentially increasing "death anxiety." The sags, the droops, the stumbles, the drools and the incontinences of the ageing body are all evidence of the inevitable degeneration of the corporal. And so, as the truly anxiety-saturated societies that we have become, rather than face and courageously engage with our fears, we obliterate them with the strangest acts of pseudo-bravery, particularly those that promise certainty and control to the end—as if that were possible.
What if the rising clamour for the right to assisted suicide before we “become a burden”—choices cloaked in the drapery of freedom and autonomy—reflect being on the receiving end of widespread, largely unacknowledged age-based prejudice? This seems to me a classic example of avoiding the core issue and resorting to a sleight of hand that turns collective defeat into personal and individual triumph. The effect is to draw attention away from the real reasons for the ever-growing levels of discomfort with the by-products of ageing; the indicators of approaching death.
Instead we can choose our own way out, mediated of course by all the economic and social variables that shape our lives. As always, the poor and disadvantaged seldom have the opportunity to voice their experiences, their perceptions, or their aspirations for their ageing years; they remain, as ever, doubly silenced. We have made substantial inroads on naming, shaming, and protesting discriminatory practices based on race, gender and sexual orientation. Perhaps age is the final frontier; how very ironic.
So yes, let us look forward to a time when people over sixty, seventy, eighty and ninety no longer need to feel self-conscious, defensive or concerned about their age; when services are no longer framed as compensatory, special, owed to, or are experienced as downright patronizing. There must come a time when services and care are no longer denied or withheld because of largely irrational assumptions about physical and mental states of health based solely on chronological age.
Most importantly, we must move towards an open acceptance and celebration of the ways in which ageing offers the possibility of embracing and celebrating diversity and difference. Our declining years provide opportunities for giving and receiving care. What is the point, if we spend our time avoiding or plotting our escapes from opportunities for truly caring for each other? Will this really make us a better society or better people?
If we placed considerations about caring at the centre rather than the margins of lived experience, strong, sustainable interdependent and cross-generational relationships would be the norm; the valorisation of youthfulness and the assumption that only the young are virile and vibrant would be replaced or even eclipsed by a broader recognition and celebration of the full spectrum of traits that make us human and invaluable to each other along the entire the life course.
Most importantly, each and every stage of human life and development would be respected and treasured for its own sake and for its contribution to the collective energy and meaning of community life. Then, perhaps, descriptors like retirement and post-retirement will become as obsolete as "whites only" or "no coloureds"! And the performance of life-saving surgery on a ninety-seven year-old body would be quite unremarkable.
On June 23, a referendum (a vote in which everyone of voting age can take part) was held to decide whether the UK should leave or remain in the European Union. Leave won by 52% to 48%. The unexpected result generated widespread shock, no surprise given the far-reaching economic and political consequences. What did take me aback was the vitriol directed at older voters, who were blamed in appalling terms.
Headlines included: “How old people have screwed over the younger generation” from the Independent and “EU Referendum Results: Young ‘Screwed By Older Generations’...” in the Huffington Post, and “We Should Ban Old People from Voting” in GQ A piece on Vice, titled “Oh My God, Grandma, What the Fuck Have You Done?”, began “Lean your wrinkly little face close to me …”. Here’s how Vox.com laid it out: “Not content with racking up insurmountable debt, not content with destroying any hopes of sustainable property prices or stable career paths, not content with enjoying the benefits of free education and generous pension schemes before burning down the ladder they climbed up, the baby boomers have given one last turd on the doorstep of the younger generation.”
A sign held up at a pro-Remain/anti-Brexit rally in East London last week read: “Old white people, please die.” The Twitterverse echoed that sentiment, with “most of the folks that voted for #brexit will be dead within 25 years. 75% of 18-30 voted stay. The old & dying sticking it to the young – @DJMightyMike” and “... how long till enough old people die to erase #Brexit majority? Has anyone worked that out? @matthewjdavies.”
Here’s another take on the lifespan issue: these supposedly selfish and short-sighted olders will live through the short-term turmoil but not long enough to play a central role in the positive changes they envision, nor to benefit from them. Misguided or not, their vote is one of confidence in the vision and abilities of the generations that follow. Nothing matters more to most olders than the welfare of their children and grandchildren, and it is grotesque to propose that those interests are inherently opposed.
How about a closer look at the data that got people so worked up about this generational divide.
In the 45-54 age group—not exactly “older people”—a clear majority voted for Leave, and even in the 35-44 age cohort, the numbers for and against differed only slightly. “You could in fact argue that the key shift occurred in the 45-54 age group,” the AgeUK blog pointed out. The older voters were, the less faith they retained in the European Union. Nostalgia played a part in their decision, but so did lived experience. These are the same people, after all, who voted to join the Common Market in 1975.
More significantly class, gender, and race are all far better indicators of how people vote than age. The working-class vote in the North of England, traditionally loyal to the left, voted against the EU; cosmopolitan Londoners leaned heavily the other way; along the coast that faces Europe, concerns about immigration generated a vehement vote to Leave. I happened to be in London at the time of the Brexit vote, and almost everyone I met voted to Remain. They were largely professionals with degrees, the characteristics identified by the Financial Times as most strongly associated with Remain voters. (In comparison, fewer of today’s olders had the chance to go to university.) The third strongest factor cited by the Financial Times was “not holding a passport.” The fourth was income (“areas with higher median incomes tended to lean Remain, whilst lower incomes leaned Leave”). Age and turnout came in fifth.
The median age in an area was the strongest predictor of turnout and showed a familiar pattern—the older the median age in an area, the more likely it was to have had a high turnout. Liberal Democrat leader Tim Farron’s take on this was that “Young people voted to remain by a considerable margin, but were outvoted.” True, but only 36 per cent of eligible 18 to 24-year-olds exercised their right to vote. The overall turnout was 76 per cent.
“Throw Granny to the wolves” headlines make good clickbait, and we shouldn’t be surprised when the media fans the flames. Prohibition, rock & roll, Vietnam, the environment—intergenerational conflict makes for a good story. This is the first time age has taken center stage in the political narrative, however, which is a troubling harbinger. It is critically important to see these headlines for what they are: a distraction from the underlying issues of social and economic inequality that affect the 99%—younger workers scrambling for a foothold in the global economy and olders stranded and stigmatized by the same forces. As the 1% grows more ruthless in its efforts to maintain the status quo, we can expect more of the same.
In anxious times, we look for scapegoats. But blaming the Brexit on old people is more than reductionist and misinformed. It obscures the origin of the underlying discontents in global capitalism, which profits by pitting us against each other: black factory workers against white ones; working mothers vs. stay-at-home moms, old against young. It legitimates austerity measures. It ignores class differences, and the racism and sexism that also oppress us. We need a radical age movement now, to add ageism to that sorry list, to mobilize against it, and to make common cause against the forces that oppress us all. In the words of poet Audre Lord, “There is no such thing as a single-issue struggle because we don’t live single-issue lives.”
I didn’t set out to become a writer. I went into publishing because I loved to read and didn’t have any better ideas. I had a weakness for the kind of jokes that make you cringe and guffaw at the same time, my boss kept telling me to write them down, and the collection turned into the best-selling paperback of 1982. I was a clue on “Jeopardy” (“Who is the author of Truly Tasteless Jokes?” Answer: “Blanche Knott.”), and as Blanche made publishing history by occupying four of the fifteen spots on the New York Times bestseller list.
My first serious book, Cutting Loose: Why Women Who End Their Marriages Do So Well, was published by HarperCollins in 1997. Ms. magazine called it “rocket fuel for launching new lives,” and it landed me on Phyllis Schlafly’s Eagle Forum enemies list. It also got me invited to join the board of the nascent Council on Contemporary Families, a group of distinguished family scholars. I belonged to the Artist’s Network of Refuse & Resist group that originated the anti-Iraq-invasion slogan and performance pieces titled “Our Grief is Not a Cry for War.” As a contributing editor of IEEE Spectrum magazine, I went to Laos to cover a village getting internet access via a bicycle-powered computer. Since 2000 I’ve been on staff at the American Museum of Natural History, where I write about everything under the Sun.
The catalyst for Cutting Loose was puzzlement: why was our notion of women’s lives after divorce (visualize depressed dame on barstool) so different from the happy and energized reality? A similar question gave rise to This Chair Rocks: why is our view of late life so unrelievedly grim when the lived reality is so different? I began blogging about aging and ageism in 2007 and started speaking on the subject in July, 2012, which is also when I started the Yo, Is This Ageist? blog. During that time I’ve become a Knight Fellow, a New York Times Fellow, and a fellow at Yale Law School; I’ve written for Harper’s, Playboy, and many other publications; and I’ve been recognized by the New York Times, National Public Radio, and the American Society on Aging as an expert on ageism. In 2015 I was included in a list of 100 inspiring women—along with Arundhati Roy, Aung Sang Suu Kyi, Germaine Greer, Naomi Klein, Pussy Riot, and other remarkable activists—who are committed to social change. My book, This Chair Rocks: A Manifesto Against Ageism, was published in March, 2016.
Part monologue and part consciousness-raiser, This Chair Rocks: How Ageism Warps Our View of Long Life is a 40-minute talk that uses stories and statistics to dispel myth after myth about late life. It’s fierce and funny, and it changes the way people envision their futures. (Clip here.) Let’s Rock This Chair: Say No to Ageism is a shorter and more activism-oriented talk that shows how ageism makes aging in America so much harder than it has to be. I also speak about the medicalization of old age, ageism and elder abuse, and the effects of ageism on women’s lives.
I was encouraged by the statistics you quoted, forced to acknowledge my own ageist thoughts, and ultimately fired up to fight them in myself and others. You are on to something big!
Sarah Meredith, painter
Why can’t we stop ageism? Good question. For some answers, start looking in the mirror and look around you. For a good dialogue on the subject, visit Ashton Applewhite’s website, This Chair Rocks.
Harry R. Moody, Director of Academic Affairs, AARP
Consciousness-raising at its sharpest and most useful.
David Watts Barton, journalist and playwright
This Chair Rocks confirms our knowledge that emotional well being is abundant in later life, challenges us to face our own internalized ageism, and inspires us to envision a future in which our society is released from age-related prejudice and discrimination. And it’s fun, too!
Geriatric Mental Health Alliance of New York
Holistic, deep, urgent, and also fun.
Lenelle Moise, playwright and performer
All practitioners working with older adults need to be informed about the pernicious influences of ageism. Nobody does this better than Ashton Applewhite. Her thinking is deep, her passion infectious, and her cogent message is spot on: we urgently need to have a national conversation about ageism to raise awareness about it and to stop it.
Risa Breckman, LCSW, Executive Director, NYC Elder Abuse Center
You have found a fantastic mission: raising consciousness that older is far better than the stereotype that enslaves us all.
Jennifer Siebens, producer, CBS News
Ashton Applewhite’s plenary address at the 2013 New York State Adult Abuse Training Institute was compelling and original, and really resonated with our 400 participants. She is an articulate and committed voice for an important cause: challenging the demoralizing shadow that ageism casts across society.
Jean Callahan, Director, Brookdale Center for Healthy Aging
Octogenarians are the fastest-growing segment of our population, yet most Americans are scared stiff at the prospect of growing old. [Applewhite’s work] is a welcome and important tonic.
Dr. Robert Butler, founding director of the National Institute on Aging, coiner of the term “ageism”
We need an anti-ageist movement, for sure. Ashton is already in it.
Margaret Morganroth Gullette, author of Agewise and Aged by Culture
A beautifully delivered, provocative description of how ageism clouds our vision of what life holds in store.
Sabrina Hamilton, director, Ko Festival for the Arts
Ashton Applewhite is on a crusade. A journalist and author, her mission is to raise awareness of ageism in America and get people young and old to join her in speaking out against it.
Thank you again for your terrific keynote yesterday. I heard from so many attendees that it affected them deeply. You are wise, funny, and provocative – a great combination!
Teresa Bonner, Program Director, Aroha Philanthropies
Book Event, Library of Congress, Washington DC
Where: West Dining Room, James Madison Building
When: August 25, 2016 12:00 pm
More info: Free and open to the public
keynote, International Conference on Positive Aging
Where: Capitol Hilton, 1001 16th Street, NW, Washington, D.C.
When: August 26, 2016 09:00 am
More info: Open to the public; register here.
presentation, Certified Senior Advisors conference
Where: Capitol Hilton, 1001 16th Street, NW, Washington, D.C.
When: August 27, 2016 10:45 am
More info: Open to the public; register here.
Book signing at Prairie Lights bookstore
Where: 15 S Dubuque St, Iowa City, IA
When: September 12, 2016 07:00 pm
More info: Free and open to the public.
Reimagine Aging 7th Annual Fundraising Breakfast Sound Generations (formerly Senior Services)
Where: Washington State Convention Center
When: September 14, 2016 08:00 am
More info: Free and open to the public; register here.
Closing Keynote, University of Washington Elder Friendly Futures Conference
Where: Seattle, WA
When: September 16, 2016 02:00 pm
More info: Register here.
Book Reading at Third Place Books
Where: 17171 Bothell Way NE Lake Forest Park, WA 98155
When: September 17, 2016 06:30 pm
Seattle Speaks with Ashton Applewhite about Age Equality
Where: Cornish Playhouse, Seattle Center
When: September 18, 2016 02:00 pm
A conversation with the author of This Chair Rocks: A Manifesto Against Ageism, including local readers sharing favorite passages from the book and a lively Q&A about age bias, where it comes from, and what we can do about it.
plenary, Area Agency on Aging annual conference
Where: Charlotte, NC
When: September 23, 2016 09:00 am
opening keynote, Deal With It: A Women's Conference
Where: Los Angeles, CA
When: September 25, 2016 09:00 am
More info: Tackling the issues that keep us up all night.
keynote for the 26th International Day of Older Persons at the UN
Where: New York
When: October 6, 2016 10:00 am
presentation, 2016 Grantmakers in the Arts Conference
Where: St. Paul, MN
When: October 17, 2016 03:30 pm
More info: In partnership with Aroha Philanthropies.
plenary at Village to Village Network Annual Conference
Where: Columbus, Ohio
When: October 18, 2016 11:00 am
panel discussion, "An Entrepreneur for All Seasons"
Where: Marble Collegiate Church, 1 West 29 th St, NYC
When: October 20, 2016 06:00 pm
keynote, Aging Well: Building a Community for All Ages
Where: Concordia University, Portland, OR
When: October 29, 2016 10:00 am
More info: Free and open to the public; link to come.
"Old Myths" - panel discussion at the Brooklyn Historical Society
Where: 128 Pierrepont St., Brooklyn, NY
When: November 29, 2016 06:30 pm
More info: with Dr. Mark Lachs, Ellen Cole & John Leland
keynote, Retirement Reimagined conference
Where: Brookdale Community College, Lincroft, New Jersey
When: December 9, 2016 11:00 am
More info: Open to the public; link to register to come.
keynote, Nat'l Assoc of Senior Move Managers annual conference
Where: Indianapolis, IN
When: March 10, 2017 09:00 am
June 9, 2016
Episode 49, listen here.
May 23, 2016
May 10, 2016
April 28, 2016
Listen here — my bit starts at 28:36.
April 8, 2016
April 4, 2016
March 29, 2016
March 28, 2016
Interview in San Diego Union. Link here.
March 20, 2016
March 16, 2016
Excerpt published in MidCentury Modern on Medium. Link here.
March 11, 2016
Interview with Marci Alboher on Next Avenue. Link here.
January 14, 2016
Interview on Real Women on Health radio show. Listen here.
December 19, 2015
A weekly hour-long call where “inspiring change makers” talk candidly about their journeys. Listen here.
October 30, 2015
Article in the Huffington Post. Read it here.
October 27, 2015
Interview on Minnesota Public Radio News with Kerri Miller. Listen here.
October 22, 2015
Article in Generations, the journal of the American Society on Aging. Read it here.
October 19, 2015
Feature quoting me in the Wall Street Journal. Read it here.
October 10, 2015
NPR’s Weekend Edition. Listen here.
September 1, 2015
Essay in Playboy magazine. Read it here.
July 3, 2015
Interview on Changing Aging blog. Read it here.
June 27, 2015
Read it here.
March 22, 2015
Read it here.
February 25, 2015
Read it here.
February 15, 2015
Read the article here.
January 6, 2015
Read it here.
October 20, 2014
June 25, 2014
Read it here.
May 19, 2014
January 22, 2014
October 15, 2013
October 28, 2013
October 24, 2013
September 16, 2013
July 18, 2013
Listen here (19:40 to 30:00)
June 4, 2013
May 8, 2013
March 17, 2013
October 2, 2013
June 30, 2012
Ageism is stereotyping and discrimination on the basis of a person’s age. We experience it any time someone assumes that we’re “too old” for something—a task, a haircut, a relationship—instead of finding out who we are and what we’re capable of. Or “too young;” ageism cuts both ways, although in a youth-obsessed society olders bear the brunt of it.
Like racism and sexism, ageism serves a social and economic purpose: to legitimize and sustain inequalities between groups. It’s not about how we look. It’s about how people in power assign meaning to how we look.
Stereotyping—the assumption that all members of a group are the same—underlies ageism (as it does all “isms”). Stereotyping is always a mistake, but especially when it comes to age, because the older we get, the more different from one another we become.
Attitudes about age—as well as race and gender—start to form in early childhood. Over a lifetime they harden into a set of truths: “just the way it is.” Unless we challenge ageist stereotypes—Old people are incompetent. Wrinkles are ugly. It’s sad to be old—we feel shame and embarrassment instead of taking pride in the accomplishment of aging. That’s internalized ageism.
By blinding us to the benefits of aging and heightening our fears, ageism makes growing older far harder than it has to be. It damages our sense of self, segregates us, diminishes our prospects, and actually shortens lives.
What are the antidotes?